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Forgive, Forgive, Forgive

To forgive you, is not how I feel about you…

I forgive you, but it doesn’t mean I don’t have those feelings you created due to your behaviour…

I forgive you, because I don’t hold on to your behaviour any more…I feel hurt, but still I forgive you…

God forgives me everyday, I sin and I own it. So if I ask for God’s forgiveness and believe that I have been forgiven…then why can’t I forgive you?.

I wholeheartedly forgive you, sincerely feelings aside. You have my forgiveness๐Ÿ•Š๐ŸŒน๐Ÿ’๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒป๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜šโคโคโค

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Thank you

Because of you I am here…

Because of your ways I am still here…

I am grateful to you, for all the pain…

For all the tears, for all the abuse…

I am still here and stronger because of you…

I am forever grateful to you, because without all that…

I wouldn’t be smiling now…so Thank you and God bless you always ๐Ÿ•Šโค

It is what it is!

It’s not that I don’t love you…..

I love you more than you love me, this is true…

I can’t stop loving you, but I won’t keep showing you how much I do….

Because you can’t possibly comprehend or….

You are still holding on to the past, if it’s the truth that still hurts then you need to let go….

Otherwise you are only making it even more complicated…

I am over it, I even saw beyond all your imperfections….you I love…

But I now know that you either don’t, or you are holding on to the past….or you just don’t know how to? 

Stop making excuses….

Instead own it and at least apologise!

You don’t see how wrong you have been. It is heart wrenching….overwhelming to know that you only make excuses for all the pain you caused so many, generations later …

Apology accepted easily, when we feel and know that you meant it…..no but instead you just make excuses and get all defensive.

The truth is, it is what it is and indeed “the sins of the fathers, surely lives long after them”.

I don’t personally expect your apology, or recognition, or acceptance. I never have and never will….however there are many people still caught up in the drama….

As for me and mine, life is too short! I haven’t allowed any drama to come steal mine….

I make a difference by showing you that I don’t need your validation! I don’t need your apology! Because I completely belong to GOD ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

Nelson Mandela an inspiration for the world….

What a hero, an inspiration, a strong being….through it all he still found his heart to forgive and create a life….sharing and inspiring others with love. So much still to learn from this being. May his sweet soul forever rest in peace! I crave this type of education, I am so delighted that my son is learning all about South Africa, the perils that black people went through and still go through! But the importance of all this education, is that no matter what RISE ABOVE IT ALL! Stand strong and tall, because as a human being…you have every right to be! Don’t be or play a victim…the power lies deep in your heart. Be forgiving and understanding and loving. You get more strength from letting go and setting your soul free, free to LOVE โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ but remember you will find more obstacles when you become free…just remember that strength that set you free in the first place #nelsonmandela #great-man #inspiration #learnfrom him #greatest #love #peace #freedom #realman #trueafricanman #notjustwithwords #leadbyexample #courage #forgiveness #love

Why bother with the anger…

I don’t understand all the hostility, the anger that is directed towards people sometimes. Indirect abuse and I haven’t the slightest clue! I ponder because I really feel sorry that someone would have so much anger towards someone continuously, when that person is busy living their life. Well I don’t know, I am not a mind reader! However I am simply human and I am thinking all sorts. I think that maybe the anger and hostility comes directly from within that angry persons being. Something must be fundamentally wrong with their life and maybe happiness. Another person is just a speck in your world, why would you allow them to consume so much of your energy? Maybe I am just too much of a perfectionist! because for me to have closure and move on, I need to forgive and sincerely forgive no matter what. And if I don’t want someone around then I will simply not have that someone around. It’s just so simple for me. I wouldn’t waste my energy by indirectly insulting someone. However I must look at the other side. I think too many people are so unhappy and unfortunately that affects the way in which they handle situations that are so minuscule. If you don’t like or care for someone, then why would you waste so much of your energy hating on them by saying things indirectly or even directly? Hating only eats at your very soul. You are better off setting your soul free by just forgiving and moving on! Don’t waste energy or ponder on someone that you simply don’t want. Vice versa! Anger and hate only consumes you and you loose yourself! 

Set yourself free!

It’s daunting as my son is growing and becoming more aware and starting to relate to his emotions and feelings. He is extremely placid. He doesn’t hold grudges in his heart. You can hurt him as a friend and in a second he has forgotten and forgives you and moves on. He doesn’t seem to know how to stand up for himself. Well this is where I come in. I know my son very well, of course because I gave birth to him number one, and number two I have raised and nurtured him. I know exactly how placid he is and I just have to be real with him like I am. He will cry because that’s how he knows how to express himself when hurt, he reminds me of myself back then. Growing up for me was tough! I just didn’t know how to express myself, until I discovered writing. I had many problems because of that and I don’t want my son or even my daughters to ever go through what I did. So I am just real. I say to him, you need to stand up for your self, not everybody is your friend. When someone says to you, after playing with you nicely, that they don’t want to play with you any longer, just say ok and move on. If a so called friend keeps playing hot and cold with you, then just know that they have their own problems to deal with and you need to take yourself away from that toxic union. Because your friends are not supposed to like everything you like, but that doesn’t mean you should hurt them or let them hurt you. My son wouldn’t get all macho when upset, but I want him to be tougher and I know he can and the only way forward is for him to hopefully learn how to say no to anyone, absolutely anyone. It is a process and hopefully he gets it! It’s a crazy, tough, hard, cruel and often nasty world out there. I want my children to be able to stand up for the right ways, without trying to please anyone. Their happiness and peace of mind lies in their small little hands right now. The power is all yours my darling children!

Forgiveness

I remember a time when the thought of forgiving hurt and pain was just not possible. Easier back then to just hold on to the hurt and pain that I went through. A journey started, I began to see. I realised that forgiveness was so powerful! It is so underrated nowadays! I thought that to forgive, meant I was weak and that I was letting someone get the better of me. But then I began to see through the eyes of my little people. I asked myself as time passed by, what do I want to teach them? I want to teach them the meaning of life! I started to forgive the ones that truly hurt me and caused me so much pain. Forgiving them by actually letting go and not going back to the old memories. Moving ahead, focusing on the present. Saying it’s ok that you hurt me and caused me so much pain….but I forgive you, I let it all go! I began to feel so free, my heart didn’t feel heavy any longer! I felt peace, peace on an unimaginable level. I felt happy and stronger, the fact is I got my power back. To forgive my perpetrators allowed me to regain my power. Power of my heart, soul and mind, I treated them with love and respect regardless of what they had done to me and I saw the impact it had on them. They changed as I forgave them, they suddenly had nothing to hurt. It felt so liberating to be in control of myself. So forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness, rather it is a sign of strength. Let go and enjoy now, leave the past in the past as it just hinders your growth. You are made in Gods image and you should, when you realise, work towards forgiving the most hurtful experiences and people. You have come from a place where what ever happened brought you this far. Say to that person or people that hurt you beyond imagination, yes I do forgive you. Because forgiveness gives you more strength! Forgiving you sets me completely free like a bird!